All too often, people direct their anger, criticism and blame outwards as a way of deflecting their own pain and shame. It’s like taking the spotlight off of themselves. Oftentimes, people do this unknowingly. This usually happens when we hold onto an event from the past, allowing it to fester and continue to hurt us. Have you ever been around someone who is often complaining, disputing or angry? It’s as if they have a sense of injustice that has taken hold of them and is strangling out all the joy in their life. They put a damper on just about everything and everyone.
If you or someone you know has an injustice model ruling and ruining their life, perhaps its time to let the past go. Freedom from the past comes when you realize that the past cannot hurt you. What is hurting you or them is the replaying and regurgitating past events. In other words, you are hurting yourself by re-traumatizing yourself.
What further feeds the injustice programs is blaming others for the way you are, or where you are at in life. No one can continue to victimize you unless you allow them to. In other words, the battle is inside of you, not outside of you. That is because the containment of all these experiences is your choice. When you blame someone or something outside of yourself for where you are at in life, you are turning your power over to them. This is akin to a king or queen abdicating their throne.
While you are licking your wounds and playing the role of the victim, life, like a high speed train, is passing you by.
Only you can come to your own rescue by pointing the finger inward and asking yourself, “What can I do to change things?” Once you realize that each challenging circumstance is an opportunity for you to not just grow, but advance, is when you can go from thinking like a victim to victorious. Only then is real change possible. Instead of internalizing circumstances and asking ‘why me?’ why not ask ‘what?’ What can I learn from the past. How can I glorify God. God can use all things for His glory. Maybe it’s time to take the focus off yourself and use your circumstances to help others.
The bitterness, anger and mistakes that come in the wake of holding on to the past and thinking someone has done you wrong can become life altering – in a bad way. You’re setting yourself up for too many regrets. Don’t lose any more time holding on to things that you have no control over.
There is hope for all of us who are at this point in life. The convergence of human action and Divine intervention is what can bring about life changing results. Admitting you need help letting go of some things and then asking for help are the first steps toward freedom. Taking your sins, weaknesses, sorrows and transgressions to the cross and laying them at the feet of Jesus, repenting of your sins, is the next step and the only way to be truly set free. It is the only way to wipe away the guilt and restore the joy in your life. If you think it’s impossible, think again. With the Holy Spirit – the holy helper – anything that once was impossible, becomes possible. He is waiting for you to ask Him for help. It is the reason that Jesus died on the cross. He wants to rescue you from your sinful nature and the weight of your worrisome tendencies and become your personal Savior.
If you decide to keep the injustice model alive and well, there is a very good chance it will lead to an insanity program. No one can function optimally if they are blaming and believing they are without the power to create real change in their life. Choosing to get well or stay in bondage is your choice. Either road you choose is a game changer.
